ARTICLE REFLECTION 3 - CAN MEN AND WOMEN BE FRIENDS?

In this article, the writer talks about the view of the society about the cross sex friendships and the possibility of this kind of friendships. I chose this topic because many people believe that men and women cannot be real friends and there are always the same dialogues like a: ‘’ Are you really just friends?’’ b: ‘’Yes we are really just friends!’’. This belief just makes me crazy. I do not mean that I am totally for or against dating with friends. Clearly there are a lot of people who are dating with their close friends of the opposite sex. We can encounter those situations in real life and also through the media such as Chandler and Monica in Friends.

 It is one of the inevitable results of being always too close, doing and sharing many things together. I would like to share this video with you, but forgive me I could not find the English version of this. It is about the impossibility of the pure friendship between male and female and the reality of the sexual attraction in the cross – sex relationship. This might be true in some situations but this is not a universal fact. The sexual attraction is a natural result of this but you can control it when you are really friends. 

I have a lot of male friends and to be honest, I prefer having male friends to female friends. There is a lot of reason for this. First of all, I and my male friend cannot fall in love with the same guy. Secondly, it is an obvious fact that females are male likely to lie than males. That means you can trust males rather than females. I have always been cheated by my female friends and obviously I cannot trust a woman easily anymore. Thirdly, men are not sensitive like women; that’s why, you can have fun with male friends than female friends. They don’t complain of not being called or something like that. They do not care about tiny details. Men are really bad at intriguing or pulling a trick on someone. They also don’t care about these things and do not deign to do something like those. Finally, women are more tend to feel jealous of her friends than men. Of course there are always exceptions but in general you can count on a man rather than a woman.

All in all, the cross – sex friendships are really possible and they can be much better than the same sex friendships.